Day 7: #PERFECTFAIRYTALEWEDDING…#NOT

So, let’s be honest it’s been awhile. Seriously, I am the WORST! Life has been a frickin whirlwind. I can admit I can be lazy and then I feel no need to write and then nothing gets done on this wedding blog. Way to go self, being selfish yet again.

BUT I can say that I may have been super lazy with the technology part of this gig but thankfully I was busy in the wedding world. Can I get a WHOOT?! WHOOT?!

So funny story… I had (HAD being the keyword here) planned my good friend’s wedding and the time for the wedding has now come and gone. I know that doesn’t leave an excuse for being gone for so long and my promises of featuring some amazing wedding photographers will come, I promise. Anywhoooo, I got back about a month ago from the wedding and it was AWESOME to say the least. The bride was perfect as far as brides go and the venue was…well…BREATHTAKING! The pictures will most definitely convince y’all of this fact. Once, I receive some pictures from the bride I will be featuring not only the wedding but the venue and all the vendors. IT. WILL. BE. AS. SWEET. AS. PIE.

You are probably wondering why I labeled this post with hashtags. Believe me I have a reason. The planning of just one wedding was a ton of work but one of the best things I have ever done. In reality, the best job I have ever had to do—for free (Yay! For being able to drink on the job, i.e. glass of wine) LOL. While, I was in Virginia at the B&B where the wedding was being held I picked up a magazine called “The Wedding Planner of Roanoke & The New River Valley”. I know, long name, but I enjoyed the material in the wedding magazine. If I am able to catch up on any tips or ideas for wedding planning I am for it and this magazine had wonderful information especially if you lived in the Roanoke area. However, as I started reading through the magazine my little brain cells started turning in my head. I repeatedly kept seeing the words “perfect fairytale.” I think we use this specific phrase a ton. Meaning your wedding will be a perfect fairytale and the marriage will be too. YIKES! Pressure much?

Cheese and Biscuits I am so glad this is not true.

I am not saying I have a bad marriage but it’s nice that I can let out a big poofer (fart in case anyone was wondering what that was about) and have my husband be grossed out by it. Ahhh, marriage it’s awesome but it does have its up and downs. It is definitely not perfect nor should it be. Disclaimer: FYI by saying I believe marriage should not be perfect I am NOT an advocate for cheating on your husband. That is just plain old selfish and will not help you grow in your marriage.

For any bride out here who somehow stumbled across this or even wives who are reading this I just want you to know that the Fairytale does not start on the wedding day nor does it in marriage. Yes, there will be times where it does feel like a fairytale but I am so grateful for those times that are difficult because it makes your marriage stronger. Those times are priceless they teach not only us wives but husbands the importance of selflessness and truly loving someone else other than ourselves. ‘Cause let’s face it we are all selfish. I will definitely be the first to admit to this. I am selfish, but I am grateful for a husband who takes it on like a champ! The fairytale is in the struggles itself whether it be a financial struggle or arguing who gets the last piece of pie in the fridge.

Sorry, y’all but I like to keep things REAL. #itsabouttogetreal

Now, I am a perfectionist and love organization. I make lists, timelines, and have all numbers handy on the weekend of the wedding. So when something goes amiss I get annoyed. Can you imagine how the bride must feel? But, hey that is why I or any other wedding planner is there for. We make sure things go smoothly. However, usually something goes wrong or is a little off the time schedule. It happens. Even with a set schedule vendors can get lost or even sleep in late. I experienced this the day of my wedding but it all turned out alright. Let’s just say certain family members arrived late and we could not start the wedding on time which took away time for pictures with the whole family. This was not my wedding planner’s fault (and she was an expert at her job), just life. However, I remember my cousin telling me that it was a good thing. Hah, but it wasn’t the perfect fairytale?! How could this be good? She told me that, “If everything went as planned then I was spending too much time on the wedding and not on the marriage.” I never thought of it in that way but she was right. Something usually happens and hopefully it’s not too severe but I always think of what my cousin told me that day.

“If everything went as planned then I was spending too much time on the wedding and not on the marriage.”

The wedding is great and yes, attempting to be a wedding planner is the best job. I would be out of a job without planning weddings but remember there is a goal and it’s a long one. It’s called marriage. It’s not perfect. It’s not a fairytale. It is a crazy journey with bumps and scratches (that do heal) with unforgettable memories that you get to share with your best friend for the rest of your life. I’d say that is a blessing which far outweighs the perfect fairytale.

Peace lovelies,

Lena